deadbedroom

I’ve now reached a point where I can acknowledge that I am not part of the problem. I’ve done everything I can to communicate and compromise. I’ve bent so far I nearly broke myself. Whether or not our bedroom remains dead is completely in his hands. I’m shifting my focus from us to me. I’ve… Read more

Last year (about four years after all of this started), I hit a point where I simply couldn’t ignore my needs anymore. This caused three things to happen in quick succession. First, I started having open, honest conversations with my partner about how the lack of intimacy was affecting me. I tried to find a… Read more

I hit a point where I felt completely stuck. I loved him. Every other aspect of our relationship was great. But I was literally so touch-starved it hurt. I felt more undesirable and unwanted than I ever had in my life. Every day, I was constantly on the verge of tears. Every night, I would… Read more

When my bedroom first died, I thought it would get better on its own. I assumed the physical side effects my partner was experiencing would fade over time and things would go back to normal. I kept trying to initiate intimacy, assuming that he was just self-conscious and embarrassed. I wanted to show him that… Read more