I’ve now reached a point where I can acknowledge that I am not part of the problem. I’ve done everything I can to communicate and compromise. I’ve bent so far I nearly broke myself. Whether or not our bedroom remains dead is completely in his hands.

I’m shifting my focus from us to me. I’ve started working with a new therapist to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. I’ve started establishing new habits based in self care and my own interests. I’ve been more active and more productive, more focused and more creative.

If my partner chooses to make an effort, I’m here to work with them. Otherwise, once I get to a point where I’m happy with myself…then I’ll need to revisit the question of my relationship and where it’s heading.

Is this the best solution? Probably not. But it has helped me find peace and even a degree of happiness as I rebuild myself.