There’s plenty of material out there about dead bedrooms and how to “fix” them, so why am I here? Why do I feel the need to write this blog? The answer to that is simple… The majority of material out there is directed towards men who are frustrated because their wives don’t want sex as much as they used to. They’re always trying to “reignite the spark” or whatever. There’s very little directed at women and even less about how to make a relationship work when the dead bedroom can’t be fixed.

My situation doesn’t fit into any of the existing boxes and I’m guessing I’m not alone. I am a woman with a high libido whose partner is a man with a low libido. (It’s like a mythical creature according to society but, I assure you, they exist!) I also love my partner too much to leave them over a lack of intimacy. That being said, it definitely puts a strain on our relationship and on my own mental health.

To be fair, my dead bedroom didn’t start with a loss of interest. My partner had a condition that required medication with…unfortunate side effects. He tried a few things to correct the issue but after a very short time he just…gave up. He seemed to accept that, in our 40’s, our sex life was just over.

That was over four years ago now.

So how have I coped with the situation? How has it affected my life? All that and more to come…